What To Do Before You Text Your Ex
In the last part of this Text Your Ex Back review I explained why text messaging is such a powerful tool when it comes to getting your ex back. I also discussed why you shouldn’t write it off as a “gimmick” solution if you’ve been influenced by other relationship experts who advise against sending text messages to your ex.
Remember, it’s not the concept of sending text messages that’s bad. It’s how you go about it that determines whether texting your ex will help or hurt your relationship. The easy solution is to let Text Your Ex Back be your guide as Michael Fiore has already done most of the hard work for you.
Digging Deeper Into The Michael Fiore Text Your Ex Back Program
Today I want to take you deeper inside Mike’s program and discuss some of the things you should think about before you ever start texting your ex. This is the section of the program Michael Fiore calls, “Before You Text: Why Did You Break Up And What’s Your Ultimate Goal?”
Pay attention. This is important.
As you start reading through the Text Your Ex Back PDF download, you may have the desire to skip past this part of the program and move directly into specific text message examples, but I recommend you don’t.
Setting goals, understanding your breakup, and knowing what you want from your relationship may seem like trivial or unimportant things, but there’s a reason Mike Fiore spends a good chunk of time on this stuff.
As Michael puts it:
“It’s important that you’re as honest as possible here. If you lie to yourself about why you and your ex broke up, what the “deal-breakers” in your relationship were, or what your real goals are in getting back together, then you’re going to be VERY disappointed when you pull the trigger and send your first couple of texts.”
There’s actually some really cool stuff in this part of the program that will help you enter into the “conversation” that’s going on in your ex’s mind. And that will make the process of texting your ex back a whole lot easier.
Things To Think About Before You Try To Text Your Ex Back
There are a few things you’ll want to think about before you send those all important first few texts to your ex. For example:
- Why did you and your ex break up?
- Why do you want your ex back?
- What type of relationship do you want to have with your ex? What’s your big goal?
- What little steps can you take today to help you reach your big goal?
The Reasons For A Breakup Are Sometimes As Clear As Mud
Figuring out why you and your ex broke up isn’t always easy. If you’re the one who broke up with them, then you probably know why. If they broke up with you, then it may not be as clear.
Things like cheating or emotional or physical abuse are pretty clear reasons for a breakup. However, when someone simply stops feeling attraction over a long period of time and then blind sides you with a breakup, it can be much harder to figure out exactly what’s going on.
You also need to be aware that what your ex says is the reason they broke up with you may not be the actual reason they broke up with you. They may not be completely honest with you because they don’t want to be mean or hurt your feelings. If this is the case, then it will take a little more work and some deeper digging to get to the bottom of why your relationship fell apart.
How Text Your Ex Back Tailors Texts To Your Own Relationship
In Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore does an excellent job of guiding you through the process of figuring out exactly what went wrong in your relationship. He lists many of the most common reasons why breakups occur.
But what I found really helpful is that he provides more details about each reason and gives you some insights into human psychology so you can better understand what’s going through your ex’s mind.
As you read through this part of the Text Your Ex Back Michael Fiore ebook, it’s likely you’ll have a “light bulb” moment where it becomes clear what problems you are currently facing in your own relationship and what specific hurdles you must overcome. It’s a huge relief and much less frustrating when you feel like you have a basic understanding of what your ex is thinking and feeling.
And Michael gives you some insights into how you will need to approach texting your ex based on the reason or reasons you broke up. For example, if your ex broke up with you because the relationship was not moving “forward”, then Michael says…
“Your job is going to be to convince your ex that you’re ready to bring things to the “next level,” whatever that might be, or to convince them that it’s not time to go to that level yet.”
This stuff is extremely important because the way you try and text your ex will partly be based on why your relationship ended in the first place and where you currently stand with your ex.
Not talking? Talking, but not seeing each other? Good friends, but not together? Broken up, but still friends on Facebook?
The digital age and the onslaught of social media has made the idea of “breaking up” a lot harder to define. You might like reading this article in the New York Times titled, “Breaking Up In A Digital Fishbowl“.
You’ll definitely want to work through this part of the Text Your Ex Back program by being completely honest with yourself. Ok?
Next time we’ll discuss some of the core concepts the Michael Fiore Text Your Ex Back system is based on.
See you in the next post,