Why Texting Your Ex Works

A few days ago I gave you a look inside the introduction section of the Text Your Ex Back Michael Fiore program. I took a look at who Michael Fiore is and how his texting expertise can help you in your own relationships. I also discussed ways to tell if the program is right for you.

Today, I’d like to continue with my Text Your Ex Back review and dive into what Michael Fiore refers to as “the magic of texting”.

Why Text Your Ex? Isn’t Texting Supposed To Be Bad After A Breakup?

“I’ve already tried everything else. Why will texting make any difference in helping me get my ex back?”

If you find yourself asking the above question (or any variation thereof), then the next section of Michael Fiore’s program will be a big help.

In “The Magic Of Texting” section of the Text Your Ex Back program, Michael discusses the reasons why text messages can be such a powerful tool to help you get your ex back.

I think this section is important because it dispels a lot of the myths about texting currently being passed through many relationship circles. If you’ve spent any length of time reading advice about how to get your ex back, then you’ve probably realized most relationship experts advise against texting after a breakup.

They have their reasons. And some of those reasons are good.

In order for texting your ex to be a good fit, a few conditions need to exist. For example…

  • You should only try to text your ex after you’ve given the relationship time to cool down. Following a no contact rule for about a month before texting is still a good rule of thumb.
  • Text messages should be reserved for creating a positive experience between you and your ex. Never use text messages to fight or argue about the relationship.
  • Your text messages should always have a purpose and a goal in mind. Never text your ex after a breakup “just because”. These texts tend to turn into what Michael Fiore refers to as “nothing texts”, and they do nothing to enhance your relationship or improve your chances of getting your ex back.
  • Text messages should be sent with the mindset that your old relationship is dead. This is one of Michael Fiore’s core concepts. Text messages shouldn’t be used to repair your old relationship. They should be used to create a new, more positive relationship with your ex.

Texting itself isn’t bad. The problem is most people don’t know the right way to text an ex. And when you don’t say the right things in the right way at the right time, you risk making the relationship worse. This is why most experts argue against it.

But Michael Fiore sees it different. According to Michael, texting is “the secret path to your ex’s subconscious mind”. And the Text Your Ex Back PDF is the guide that helps you tap into your ex’s subconscious mind one text message at a time.

The Top Reasons Texting Works To Help You Get Your Ex Back

In Text Your Ex Back, Michael does a great job of revealing many of the reasons why texting is so effective at helping you get your ex back. But I actually think this section of the program falls a bit short. In my mind there are even more reasons to focus on texting when you want your ex back that Mike Fiore doesn’t discuss.

After reading through the Text Your Ex Back ebook and brainstorming some ideas on my own, here are some of my top reasons texting is an absolutely awesome tool for getting your ex back…and why you shouldn’t write it off as being some sort of “gimmick”.

  • Texting gives you almost unlimited access to your ex. People are addicted to their cell phones and have them within arm’s reach nearly every minute of every day. This gives you an incredible opportunity to reconnect.
  • Text messaging is personal and private.
  • Text messaging is direct one on one communication. This helps create a sense of intimacy you can’t get through other forms of communication.
  • The right kinds of text messages are nonconfrontational which helps create a more positive experience between you and your ex.
  • Texting can progress at its own pace. You can build intimacy, attraction, and desire over time.
  • Texting gives you time to think and respond. The ability to STOP and THINK about what you’re going to say before you say it is a HUGE advantage when it comes to texting your ex. There’s much less risk of saying something you’ll regret later.
  • Texting is unobtrusive. People tend to text at places like work, school, and in other instances where talking on the phone or other forms of communication may not be possible.
  • Texting makes it easier to express your feelings and emotions. Many people say things over text they wouldn’t have the courage to say face to face.
  • Texting gives you a greater chance of being heard. This allows your messages to have more impact. For example, if you call your ex they may not answer, but if you text your ex, there’s a good chance they’ll read your message even if they don’t respond.

Hopefully the above list helps you see how text messages sent from your cell phone can be a big help in your ability to get your ex back. A study by the Pew Internet and American Life Project found the average teenager sends around 60 texts per day (and rising), but my gut feeling tells me that number is low.

Other statistical research has shown the average teenager sends about 300 texts per day and even adults admit to spending less time “talking” and more time “texting”. The opportunity to seduce your ex back into your life has never been bigger.

Ultimately, your ability to text your ex back will be determined by how you approach and respond to your ex through the text messages you send. Text Your Ex Back by Michael Fiore does most of the work for you and is about as close as it comes to a “push button” or “copy and paste” solution.

Next time we’ll take a look at some of the things you’ll want to keep in mind before you start texting your ex.

See you in the next post,


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12 thoughts on “Why Texting Your Ex Works

  1. michelle
    January 24, 2012 at 7:43 pm

    My ex boyfriend hasn’t been texting me since july of 2011 and I have been texting him for years anything and everything, from past present to future. Before he stopped texting he was using mean words for about a year. The woman that he is seeing is very controlling and she is reading his text, I found out from her 2days ago, and yesterday he accidentally text me instead of someone else, I text a nice msg back, he then text a story, said it was made up bs and told me to enjoy and to get help. Do you think text your ex back can work for me? My ex told me last night he will never text or respond again and that I’m wasting my time. It has been 5yrs that I’ve been trying to get him back. And this other lady came into his life after he left me. I talked to psychics and they told me he is not in love with her, but I know she is a fake and she doesn’t truly love him and he still has feelings for me, which leaves me confused becuase then why are we not together. Im wondering about paying someone to do energy work? Do you think texting your ex back would help me?

    1. Admin
      April 3, 2012 at 1:55 am

      Hey Michelle,

      In my opinion, you shouldn’t be wasting your time on this guy or trying to use Text Your Ex Back to get him back. He…

      1.) Sends you mean, awful texts
      2.) He sends you made up stories
      3.) He tells you to “enjoy and to get help”

      Someone who treats you like this doesn’t deserve you.

  2. REV
    March 12, 2012 at 12:49 am

    How well can this work on a Legal Separation after 33 years of marriage???

    1. Admin
      April 3, 2012 at 1:38 am

      Hey Rev,

      That’s a difficult situation, but not an impossible one. Michael Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back program teaches you how to slowly open your ex up to the idea of being with you again over time.

      No one can GUARANTEE you will get your ex back and Text Your Ex Back isn’t a magic bullet that can solve everything overnight, but it has worked for a lot of different people in a lot of different situations.

      As long as your ex still shows emotion toward you (even if it’s negative emotion), there’s a good chance you can turn things in your favor and win her back. What you don’t want is apathy from your ex. An apathetic ex is the hardest to get back.

  3. Donna
    April 2, 2012 at 7:22 pm

    What if your ex has you blocked from texting his phone, is an email just as good?

    1. Admin
      April 3, 2012 at 1:22 am

      Hi Donna,

      Great question! The techniques in Michael Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back program work great with text messages and also with email. I’ve been in touch with several different people who have adapted the program to email because their ex didn’t text much, their ex had changed their phone number, or they had other reasons they couldn’t use text messages.

      That’s another great thing about the program. You can adapt it to other forms of communication if you need to.

  4. YEN
    May 27, 2012 at 12:44 pm

    is this possible if we have broken up with my ex for almost a year? what i know is he have no girlfriend yet but he is going out on dates with other girls.. and from what i know also is he does have someone who he is courting or letting his heart out.. we are friends but not as good.. we have been “friends with benefits” after the breakup but not anymore now because i stopped because i want to respect myself..

    1. July 4, 2012 at 6:17 pm

      Hi Yen,

      Yep, Michael Fiore’s Text Your Ex Back program can still work for you even if you’ve been broken up for a year or more and even if your ex has started dating other people. Michael’s methods show you how to re-establish a connection in such a way that your ex will make the decision on his own to want to be with you again.

      One of the great things about texting is that it’s private. So you can have conversations with your ex and build that connection even if he’s seeing someone else. It might take a little longer if you’ve been broken up for a long time, but Michael has plenty of success stories from people who got an ex back from years ago. In fact, one guy was able to reconnect with his high school sweetheart.

  5. krissy
    August 22, 2012 at 1:23 pm

    I been with my boyfriend for one year and four months we broke up one month now and he don’t talk to me he is very angry and want nothing to do with me he said we are not compatible I love my own way and I aways want to start a fight with him he thinks am looking perfection and I know I said things I didn’t mean because I got upset he block my phone number delete me from facebook and he said he don’t want nothing to do with me do u think there is a chance for us again I really love this guy.

    1. August 29, 2012 at 6:58 pm

      Hi Krissy,

      There’s definitely still a chance. Obviously he’s extremely hurt by whatever happened in the relationship, but those strong emotions (even though they are negative) are a good sign. What you don’t want is apathy (indifference or a complete lack of emotion). Those are the hardest relationships to turn around.

      In Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore teaches you the concepts of “text judo” that allow you to turn your ex’s negative feelings and emotions into positive ones over time. But the first thing you need to do is give him space and time. When he is in such an emotionally heightened state, trying to make contact with him will only make things worse.

  6. Nikole
    August 24, 2012 at 9:09 pm

    i was seeing someone for around 2 months, and things wore off slowly, with less and less contact, then after embarrassing myself in front of him when i acted desperate on a night out. i text saying sorry. then a few days later text asking to meet up he said no. i said ok. its now been around 7 weeks of no contact. is all lost or can i win him back, shall i text if so what should i say?

    1. August 29, 2012 at 6:09 pm

      Hi Nikole,

      It’s not too late to win him back, but it definitely sounds like your neediness and desperation killed some of the attraction. Being out of contact for 7 weeks was definitely a good move on your part. Now that you’ve been out of contact, it’s time to test the waters to see if there could still be something there. I recommend a text Michael Fiore refers to in his Text Your Ex Back program as an “across the bow text”.

      The idea is to mention something positive that reminded you of your ex. You don’t want to bring up the past relationship. You don’t want to be negative. You don’t want to put any pressure on your ex to respond. Basically you’re just letting your ex know that something made you think of him and it had a positive effect on you.

      So, for example, if your ex likes BMX racing, you might send a text that says something like, “Just watched America’s Got Talent and saw these guys doing some crazy stunts on their bikes. Found myself smiling when it made me think of you. You were always awesome at that stuff. Hope you’re doing well.”

      Notice this type of text isn’t needy or desperate in any way and doesn’t pressure your ex to respond. He can if he wants, but if he doesn’t it’s ok. You just want to make contact and start planting some positive seeds.